Hello! I’m a 26 year old guy and I really miss being in a relationship. Problem is, atop not being social outside of my long time friend group, I’m not sure I should even be in a relationship. That thought always spirals back to wondering whether I’ll ever really be a good candidate for a relationship if I just have depression for the rest of my life, which is fairly likely. I’m taking the work on myself approach but I’m still in undergrad from switching majors a few times, I can’t land even a part time job for some reason, and my sleep schedule is abysmal, so basically depression stuff. My parents still support me and I live with them and my interests fit with the stereotypical nerd/loser. Am I wrong to think that these disqualify me from dating and should I try to put myself out there? I pretty much only use dating apps ‘cause outside most of the other people I interact with are outside my age range. But I still can’t stop thinking about being with somebody, though I’m probably romanticizing it.

Therein lies another problem. If I’m not stable for a relationship I am still interested in hookups. I don’t know if this is the right place to ask about this. I’m balding, chubby, and I have bad fashion sense. I do go to the gym, and I would at least get a new wardrobe but, money. I’m pretty much working only through dating apps ‘cause I don’t drink and am way too embarrassed and stick in the mud to go to clubs or bars. What can I do to make myself more appealing on that front? I hope this all doesn’t come off as entitled, I’m willing to put in work I’m just not sure what I can do.

Thanks in advance for any advice