So i messed up yet another match from a dating app the other day. We talked on the phone and i went silent for 3 mins after being asked if i had anything to talk about. I eventually said no and and shortly after we hung up. She has not responded since and it has been nearly a day, before she was also messaging me pretty much constantly too so i know i scared her off.

How do i improve socially? Ive been doing all of what im supposed to, caring for myself, loosing weight, ect but my social skills are still lacking. Im so mad at myself for messing this up.

Are people who are quiet like me not ment to date? Ive rattled this arround in my head for so long and needing to lead casual conversation just feels wrong to me. Im ok commenting and listening to them but when they flip the tables and want me to take the lead i freeze and its so awakward.

I feel like i dont have much to talk about. I play video games and watch youtube and movies. I know these hobbies are not flashy and meaningful but ive come to peace with that. Do i need to find a bunch of new hobbies just to be more interesting so i can date? Do i abandon my current ones?