I have a quiet, simple life and keep to myself. Im softspoken about my interests and im fine with saying nothing if i dont have anything to say.

In november a from this coffee place i frequented girl gave me her number and i was stunned. We texted and i set up a date. I was quiet and i thought i went well. A week later she invited me to her room to hang out. I was kinda quiet there too but i thought i did a good job at forcing myself to be more open than usual. A week later she said she had lost interest in me. I asked why and she said i was dull to talk to in person.

This really stung and i felt called out for something im self conscious about. On the one had i could have maybe said a little bit more bur she talked up a storm the whole time (i was ok with this as it took worry away from me about not having anything to say). I saw her earlier and all this came back to me and i feel so confused. I really want to stop trying dating now as this experience pretty much left me with the impression im too boring to ever find love. Idk if i really was or if she was being overly picky and judgemental after realizing i was not her type.

Is it selfish to be my "boring", quiet self and keep asking out girls? It feels kinda missleading to try and make them think im this, deep, mysterous and interesting person. I know there is rhetoric everywhere about improving myself and i have done everything people suggest but I think im truely introverted, quiet and content being "boring". It feels wrong and fraudulant to change my whole personality to get a gf.