I’m 27f and hardly know of a world outside of dating apps. Tinder was widely used and available my freshman year of college when I finally had the freedoms to date who I pleased, so that became my normal. Some matches were hookups, and others turned into meaningful relationships of all lengths and emotions. However, about 10 years in I am really feeling dating app fatigue. Im tired of swiping and falling victim to a paradox of choices. There are way too many, and swiping based on an arbitrary list of qualities feeds deeply into my insecurities. My partner doesn’t like how I look with a few extra pounds? No problem, someone on tinder won’t have those pounds. My partner doesn’t have enough sex with me? No problem, someone online will be desperate to give me what I need. It feels as if people aren’t willing to sacrifice, communicate, participate, etc because there are limitless choices literally at our fingertips every single day. However, a much older friend pointed out to me that dating apps have actually changed his perspective for the better, because there are so many choices out there and more people available in an easy to digest format, people aren’t settling for just anyone anymore out of fear they can’t or won’t meet someone “better.”

I wonder how everyone else is feeling on this one. Am I just feeling insecure? Or is there a happy medium here somewhere?