I am exhausted and honestly don’t know if I can keep going with the whole dating scene. I genuinely hate it. But as recently single, I have a decision to make…think about dating again once I am ready or just throwing my hands up in defeat.

I am not a serial dater. I have had mostly long term(5 years) relationships in my life. All I want is to find someone to make a life with. Due to some health issues and trauma, I don’t want kids/partner with kids. My relationships tend to fizzle out because I want to keep improving/actively work towards my goals while my partners seem to stagnate. Nothing was ever handed to me and I have worked for everything I have.

I am in my mid 30s and I am well aware the pool of potential dates gets smaller and smaller. Add the games, ghosting, in it only for the sex, and lack of communication skills and I just don’t know if I have it in me anymore. I have worked on myself in therapy over the years, and it is so frustrating to not be able to find a like minded partner.

And before you say “Get a hobby/put yourself out there”, I do quite a bit so that also isn’t the problem.

So I guess, my question is, how do you all find motivation to get back in the saddle when it all seems to get more gloom and doom in the dating scene every year?