I (35f) am married (39m). For years we’ve been having sexual issues. He can’t maintain erections, cums too quickly, and generally has a low sex drive. I on the other hand do not. We currently haven’t had sex in about 3-4 months. I love him but I’m at my wits end. He’s been tested all his hormones are normal. He can’t take medications because he on medication for an unrelated issue. Toys don’t really do it for me (neither does oral for that matter). He’s said multiple times he’s going to start taking c supplement but never does- I honestly don’t know if this time will be different and either way IF that works it will be a while before there a change…idk Recently he’s been suggesting i sleep with someone else- and I have to say I am certainly tempted cause I’m climbing the walls here - but at the end of the day it still feels like cheating to me. I love my husband and us not being intimate is definitely effecting how close we feel. It’s also affecting my focus on a daily basis. He thinks it’ll end up bringing us closer together cause I won’t be as horny all the time and thus take some pressure off him- additionally he thinks his issue is mentally feeling like he has to perform —- idk? What should I do?

TLDR husband thinks I should sleep with other people so I’m not so horny and he doesn’t have to perform- I’m on the fence