I saw this girl on my workplace, so I(26 M) was immediately attracted to her. Normally I don’t date coworkers because it usually leads to disaster but she was at my workplace to get some training done for a supervisor position for another office so I thought this could work. As I found out about her she is 34 years old, I don’t mind the age gap and apparently she doesn’t either but there’s one problem: she has 3 kids.

Now, I was shocked when I heard this from her and she said that the kids father is taking care of them and that we could work something out(me and her). I suppose my hormones spoke for me because I agreed to it. We haven’t gone a date yet but we have talk through messages and the more I talk with her, the more I don’t see myself with her in the future. She’s not a bad person, but I can’t see myself committing tho her. But I feel bad, I feel like I’m getting her hopes up when in reality I want her as a friend.

I’m trying to let her down easily without being an asshole but still be honest about, if that’s possible. How can I manage this?

UPDATE: I went to work to talk to her and apparently she told somebody that I was I virgin, something that I told her the day yesterday(because we got a chance to talk about everything properly) now I don’t care if people know that I’m virgin, but I feel disrespected on the fact that she told somebody something that was personal, something for just the two of us.

EDIT: I’m grateful for all the advice, this is my first time posting something on Reddit and I’m grateful for how receiving and patience the community is.