I'm a young adult Male, and I'm terrified of the Dateing world...................... I'm afraid of woman but not I'm the normal sense how most people think if it, I'm terrified of them lieing they can ruin my life in a matter of moments and no one would think twice........................................ For example new guy at my work just got fired for sexual assault ( he didn't do anything I was their training him but my boss( a manager) a female made a move on him grabbing his but he declined the advance and tried to report it to HR his first day 2 days later he got excused out of the building by 5 different police just to leave the building they didn't take him any were or anything he just had to go because the ( manager in question called and made a fake report ominously ) while we were all working he got black listed from the company and his bank account was temporarily frozen. It's not anymore but still it was dropped because of lack of evidence and camera proof going against what he said but that doesn't change the fact he is black listed STILL lost 3 months worth of wages from his previous job to pay legal fees just for it all to be dropped.)...............Details/background for this incident... ( he is young fit and attractive by most standards)... ( I only know so much about everything because I was training him at the time and I reached out because I caught wind what was going on from the manager in question bragging about it in the office)....... ( The company we work at well I work at is Taco Bell the management in general is just corrupt and awful with "dreind mafifas" running everything but this is a new low for local management even for low standers)... ( This settled like 2 months ago but it still effects my train of thought knowing it could happen to me)........................................ I'm lonely I'm not the best looking like I'm not fit sure I have decent hair but still if someone is willing to be that rude and just awful to someone I view as Superior to me physically, mentally and just over all as a human I don't want to see what would happen to someone like me that's not financially stable and doesn't have a network to lean on I'm adopted I live half away across the country (USA) from anyone I would even remotely call blood family and my adopted family are not close with me like that I'm grateful for them but I'm an adult know I don't want to be a burden to them for even longer......................................... I say this stuff but even being scared I can't help but feel alone it's not like I haven't dated before but the Dateing environment has changed so much and it's not the same as highschool and long distance is just as scary because of doxing.( I'm at a loss I don't know what to do. Or how about to going and finding someone or even where it would be appropriate to find someone that's not just self centered)....................................... Can someone please just tell me why people are like this or how to find other people who are not so self serving as to ruin others lives just because I say no to someone they want................... (New/added) since so many people can't comprehend the text above this post is asking for advice on where and how to go about finding new places to meet new people ( not about grape numbers or victim that victim this nor is it about validation) AGAIN I REPEAT THIS POST IS FOR ADVICE ABOUT HOW TO GO ABOUT AND FIND PLACES THAT WOULD BE APPROPRIATE TO TALK/FLIRT WITH SOMEONE with the intent of Dateing ( for example a coffee shop I recommend you go to so and so it's normal to start conversation here so and so it's not a place that forbids or shuns this kind of social interaction.