So I'm going speed dating soon, I'm honestly trying to put some serious effort into finding someone to settle down with. I had a call with a matchmaker who was organizing the event. She was good, very knowledgeable, but left me feeling confused.

She wants me to completely change who I am, at least it feels that way

I don't like styling my hair, in fact due to my psoriasis I normally shave it at least twice a year. Its actually time for a full buzz anyways. So, I wear hats. Mostly a nice leather cowboy hat that I absolutely love. But it could be a baseball style hat too on some days. She wants me to style it and no hats.

I love my plaid button down shirts. I don't mind solid colors, that fits me too but she said no short sleeves. I absolutely loath long sleeves. She said this was super important. I would look too much like a nerd.

My cowboy boots would be okay if I can clean them up. (understandable, I'm okay with that but I'mnot sure if I can) If I can't get a black pair of dress casual shoes, and that's defiantly not me. I don't like dress shoes of any kind, hell I don't even like shoes. Only reason I have my boots is because work requires them. Ill either wear sandals (which I understand are not good for first impressions especially speed dating) or some type of slip on boat shoes, or minimalist footwear (Merial's, xero shoes, Vibram that stuff) mainly because I like to do a lot of hiking so I wear them as my daily shoes too.

idk, No hat, styled hair, long sleeves, weird shoes, its like Im going in to sell a version of me thats not me at all. Ill never wear those clothing again, I feel like Ill be starting out with a lie.

But, she does have a point though, I got 0 matches last time, and all it takes is a few seconds for a woman to judge me on my looks, and speed dating you don't really get to know much about the person.

Hell half of me is just debating not going, but I'm not a social person at all these events are quite literally the only time I actually go out and talk to women....

Im torn, Im a mess I know. I hate dating, all games hate that.

May I get some advice please?