I am 50, and my wife is 47. She was a smoker her whole adult life. She knew I had the fetish and indulged me. Around the time she turned 40, she quit. It was hard for both of us, but we both knew she was doing it for her longevity and the good of the family.

Since then, my wife and I got involved in the wife sharing lifestyle. It had been a fantasy for a while, and we were ready to try. About a year ago, my wife started seeing a new guy. A few months into him being her bull, in discussing our sex lives, my wife brought up that she was a former smoker and that I had a fetish for it. It didn't seem like a big deal, he just mentioned he found it hot.

The next time we met with him, her bull brought out a pack of cigarettes and said he'd been thinking about it a lot, and wanted to see her smoke. We were iffy at first, so he left and gave us a chance to talk about it. We were both thinking with a very horny mind, she wanted to do what her bull wanted, and I wanted to see it. So we agreed.

Seeing her light up again after almost seven years made me almost explode. I was thinking of how the pleasure of nicotine and sex were more important to her in this moment than all the things she originally gave up smoking for. It was crazy, too, knowing another man helped her embrace her addiction again. Her bull still says this was one of their best nights together.

It was unspoken, but I think both of us knew that her smoking again was not a one time thing. On the way home, I automatically stopped at a gas station and bought two packs of her cigarettes. She pretty quickly was back to smoking as much as before.