So, I made a random Reddit account just to get advice for this.

I have both a mom and a dad (so, technically not daddy issues, more mommy issues), my mom is mentally ill (diagnosed as such) and my dad is just normal. I am personally in my 20s and have a healthy academic career in STEM and a day job.

I will not dive too deep into this, since the situation itself is highly specific.

Essentially, I was abused in the past. My parents are in adamant denial over it, so much it's borderline delusional. This person, the abuser, was seen recently in person. I froze and panicked upon seeing them. My father tried to hug me to reassure me, but I stepped away and stated that I did not want to be hugged (tactile stimuli is overwhelming in a panic attack). I was later guilt tripped EXTENSIVELY by my mother, and was told that she hoped it was worth it for hurting my father's feelings.

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My mother and I have always had an extremely tense relationship in which I was often called "bitchy" repetitively, slapped in the face, yelled at, etc. Any time I bring it up, she construes it so that I just am overreacting, not remembering things correctly, catastrophizing, and the like.

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I have made every attempt to talk to both of my parents about this, but any time I try to they are incredibly defensive and dismissive.

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I need some advice.. is it possible to salvage a relationship with my family, or is hope for healing lost?