I know there’s a lot of females on here, but I’m a male with a different kind of daddy issues and I think you guys might be the only help I have really.

So my partner and I have been together for two years, and I’m just now realizing that we both have daddy issues but in different ways.

I was in foster care for most of my life before being adopted and then kicked out by my adoptive family, but my biological father was abusive to me and my sibling sexually and in battery (if that the right term). Now my partner wasn’t in foster care but has devolved parents and moved around as a child a lot. He had a verbally abusive stepfather and a kinda-existent father (for 10-12th grade really).

Now my partner and I have been arguing a lot lately, but it is never anger or frustration that stems to come from each others actions, it’s seems to be emotions that stem from the thoughts that come with those actions. With that being said, I can see that some of my actions make my partner upset when they trigger thoughts of abandonment, and I get upset...a lot, but I still can’t figure out why. It’s like I have all the lemons but not the tree if you know what I mean with that.

So now my question to you guys is, “why do I get upset/sad/emotionally chaotic whenever I simply think about being a man in a relationship?”

It might not matter but I feel that for the responses to be accurate this information must be disclosed:

Me: B-M-21-foster-sexual/verbal Partner: W-M-19-divorce- verbal

Is our relationship in jeopardy? Can I be fixed? Can we be fixed? CAN MEN EVEN HAVE DADDY ISSUES???!!

Edit: are mommy issues a thing? Cuz...