My (18F) Father left me, my brother and my mother when i was just 3 years old after finding on one of his business trips a woman, who i will call Cassie, and got her pregnant. My father then left and temporarily went to the womans county to short things out between them and the family for the upcoming baby. In the meantime he didn't allow my mother to leave the house and even made my grandparents (his parents) have an eye on her in case she decides to leave. My grandparents would constantly bully her and make her feel worthless and useless. They would, also, from time to time threaten her life and/or threaten that they will take me and my brother away if she tried to leave. We went through hell, especially my mother, but we managed to get out of there when no one remembered to keep an eye on us and left to go to a wedding. (Btw my mum was also working but they would take away all the money she made so that she wouldn't be able to leave. But my mum managed to sneak in the couch cushions some cash from each of her pay so that she would be able to raise a little bit of money to get away) We went through some really rough patches with no one by our side to help us, with no money. At the time i was barely 3 years old and my brother was 10 months old.

Fast forward 15 years later....I am now 18 years old and my brother is now 15. Father and us went no contact for almost a decade without paying child support. Recently (the past 5 years) he came back into our life and he is paying child support. He even messages me and my brother occasionally to see what we're up to.

When i was 8 years old i got diagnosed with a chronic illness (diabetes) and had (and still have) a really rough life due to that. Recently the technology has evolved greatly, regarding diabetes care, and there is a device that will really help me be healthier and prevent me from developing any issues in the future because of my diabetes being out of control. I need that device. But it costs approximately 1000$. We don't have that kind of money... So i did the only thing i could think of, i asked my dad for some money. But he refused to send me the money and he said that he will give me half of the money for the device when i meet up with him in the summer. When i asked why he would not just transfer the money he wouldn't tell me and he was being really secretive. I tried talking to him about it again and try to discuss any other ideas that i could get the money now but he doesn't answer my texts. He leaves me on read. He has done that multiple times now.

It was hard to ask him for money to begin with, since i have never felt like he was my dad, even though I call him dad it doesn't come out naturally to me. So me asking him money was a huge deal for me. It was really freaking uncomfortable and i would've liked better if i just stayed quiet, but my health is important. Even though my mental health right now is suffering since i have been rejected, again. I know someone could say that i have not been actually rejected since he offered to give me the money in the summer, but he know it's important to me now but he doesn't bother to find another way to make it work like a decent parenr would do. And i am also pretty sure that he is planning on not giving me the money at all in the summer like he promised. Why do i think that? Well I'll tell you why. Every promise he made regarding those 500$ dollars he made it through the phone and he basically refuses to talk about it over text. You know why? Because if he ends up not giving me the money there wouldn't be any actual proof of the promise he made. I have seen some crazy sneaky things from him and his parents so i am not going to trust him.

I hope all goes well. Thank you for listening. Tell me.what you think about this situation in the comments ❤️