So after awhile of bringing home my son my wife told me that she’s not happy and she wants a divorce. She says that she hasn’t been happy for awhile and she doesn’t find me attractive anymore. I will admit I haven’t been the best husband and I have let myself go but damn it hurt to hear her say that. We both grew up in a household that ended in divorce and I don’t want to put my son through that. I’m trying to be a better husband so that I can prove to her that I can make her happy. I guess my question is, could this be postpartum depression? Because she keeps talking about all the things she feels like she’s missed out on. She left her dads house at 21 and not long after we started dating we were moving in together. I know we kind of moved fast but we both really loved each other and thought that’s what she wanted. Now after 13 years she tells me this. I guess I’ve known for awhile she wasn’t happy but I was blind and ignored it. I guess I just feel like my wife is a different person since our son was born. She says it’s not postpartum but I’ve never heard of someone changing so much after giving birth. I don’t know what to do dads and I need help. She doesn’t want to go to counseling and she’s says in her mind the marriage is over but I don’t know if I believe it. We are still having sex and she is still talking to me like we used to. She did have an emotional affair last summer before we found out she was pregnant and I’m paranoid about her doing it again. I’m just at a point where I don’t know what to do.