This was late 2019. I had gone through some major changes in my life and marriage. Broke a crippling porn addiction, got into the semen retention movement, wife and I went through hell and back and were in the best place in our marriage in about a decade.

I was approached by a young man on Reddit who seemed to be an upstanding dude, and introduced me to his mentor over telegram. Within a very short time I was doing things for this man who stroked my ego and constantly made me feel both very important and very small at the same time. All of the things he had me do were all to do with sex and body image. I wasn’t allowed to have sex, I wore a chastity cage, and a lot worse. He told me his group helped men become men. He called me boy and told me he was helping me to become a man.

Early in 2020 I realized I was being manipulated but I was afraid to disappoint him and make him angry. One night everything just broke and I made up my mind to quit this whole thing and leave. I wrote up a long message on telegram and an email and then blocked him.

I was able to get rid of all the disgusting and degrading things he made me do, but it really screwed with my mind and marriage. I have run into other members of this group (based in Australia, I still don’t know what they call themselves) who have either snitched on me to my former “master” or have tried to get me back into these practices. And only one who’s fully escaped, but only after years of this abuse.

I’m writing to both raise awareness and also to say that getting out is possible if you’re feeling stuck, and i hope you’re able to findyour way out if you’re stuck and know this is the wrong place for you.