I'd like to spend hours holding you and slowly tracing skin. Feeling the stress of the world slowly fade away as you melt into me and find new ways to be even closer. A new favorite position, a calming stroke of a hand, or a new appreciation for the art of cuddling. There's no need to hold back the affectionate creature stirring within. Tune in to your affectionate side and explore your affectionate potential with an experienced cuddler able to match and nurture your cuddle enthusiasm.

I have honed my cuddling skills over decades of hands-on research, exposure to different cuddling styles, and being in tune with my own affectionate preferences. I realize affectionate expression must be encouraged and nurtured in a cuddle partner, not taken for granted. I realize not everyone is immediately expressive, either due to shyness or the repression of the inner cuddler eager to reach her full potential. I aspire to provide a welcoming enough cuddling environment your full affectionate self can be discovered and emerge without restraint.

A few of my favorite things and discovered preferences:

• I enjoy the feeling of her melting into me and finding ways to be even closer. A nuzzle spot discovered or a leg wrapping between my legs
• Skin-on-skin cuddling is best, creating many touchpoints of shared warmth and closeness as you're pressed against me, but it may take some time to develop that comfort
• I am an active cuddler, tracing your body in long strokes as I discover your favorite sources of relaxation. I might integrate a light massage as I discover tenseness, inviting more relaxation
• I like a responsive cuddler expressive in her enjoyment
• I am a naturally nurturing cuddler, wrapping you up in my strong arms (and legs) to draw you closer and shift away from the stresses of your day

I enjoy talking about your own favorite things about cuddling, if they're often achieved, and what you wish was possible with a cuddle buddy. The nuances of cuddle theory applied across many perspectives, even as you develop your own affectionate approach. Hopefully you can cuddle with a similar level of comfort you'd express in a relationship or enjoy a new way to explore your affectionate self. Tap into your affectionate cravings and share your desires.

I'm 38, single, sane, and bathe regularly. When not cuddling I enjoy hiking, biking around the city, drinking good coffee, training dogs for a local non-profit, and exploring new restaurants. I make dark chocolate and wine as hobbies and have a good supply of both if you'd like to pair with a cuddle session.

I've had some good cuddle buddies in the past and I'm hopeful this subreddit attracts cuddle enthusiasts. I've cuddled with women still discovering their affectionate side, lesbians who appreciate a big spoon, and existing enthusiasts eager to find someone who can resonate on their level. You should have good hygiene, realize when your many layers of clothing can be abrasive or inhibiting, recognize when your extra long hair presents a choking hazard, and be a generally easy-going person.

Additional thoughts on cuddling, in a FAQ-like format:

• Is cuddling a thinly-veiled euphemism for sex? No, presumably you know how to make hookups happen and are looking for more intimacy and affection.
• I might be shy / nervous and need some time and exposure to open up to the idea. Reaching out and exploring your affectionate preferences over chat is a good start! We could meet in public to talk about our emerging theories on ideal cuddling. We can watch a movie in a theater with the armrest up or explore your affectionate side in a way that feels comfortable to you.
• Are you typically the big spoon or the little spoon? I'm 6' tall, creating good big spoon nesting. If I'm spending the night with someone I might turn away and sleep on my side to fall asleep, and she might nest up behind me as the "big spoon" to continue snuggling.
• What's your strangest cuddling experience (I hope it won't be me)? I was snuggling with someone who enjoyed jiu-jitsu, we both fell asleep, and she must have had REM sleep behavior because I woke up in a strange hold while she was dreaming.

Curious if a good cuddle buddy is possible? Send a chat/message and say hi!