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Recently had a bad experience, so I figured Iād post again.
I'm 38, male, white, in New York. I'm sex-repulsed, which means I do not enjoy sex at all, either with men or with women. But I am heteroromantic and very much enjoy cuddling and physical touch.
It's been very tough finding a partner who accepts that I'm Ace. And I totally get that no partner owes anyone celibacy; I don't expect that at all. But what really has shocked me is the amount of women who view this as a turn-off. We may share a strong emotional/intellectual connection and develop romantic feelings, but the moment I say "I don't enjoy having sex," they say "Oh. Never mind then." And suddenly I'm viewed as not a real man, as if all masculinity is measured by my cocksmanship. I forced myself to have sex for years just to make a partner happy. It made me miserable and I don't ever want to go back to that.
I hope the right woman is out there and will read this. And have a desire to meet a male partner who can offer you cuddles, companionship, a warm and loving atmosphere, discussion of art, literature, wine, and good TV. If this is you, feel free to DM me and we can talk from there. But if having sex is the only thing you care about, please move right along.
And wishing everyone else lots of love!
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