Last night we were laying in bed and I tried to make a move by running my hand along her panty line. She instead pushed herself up off the bed and began blowing me. After a minute or so she sits back and had a grin. She said “why don’t you grab the coconut oil and use your hand?” I kissed her and after a few seconds she insisted again and said she wants to watch. After I reached in the night stand and lathered up, she then started to kiss me passionately. She stopped kissing me and began to watch me play with myself. She was so turned on she was getting shivers and even light moans. She said “I love to watch you do that” followed by more moans. Then she started kissing my ear and neck. That got me off. She is really into watching me get off too. She immediately told me how much she enjoys watching that and said “idk why but that turns me on so much to watch you use your hand”. I ask her why and she just said “I don’t know but I love it”

Side notes:

My wife is a very competitive person and type A I’d say. She is very quick to brag me up to her family and friends but is rarely complimentary to me directly. I am type A as well, so I understand the dynamics of pushing each other to be successful. I don’t need verbal affirmation from her. The fact she is with me is my affirmation. She is usually braggadocios around her friends and family about things she has and has accomplished (whether she admits it or not). She works hard at everything she does so she has a right to be proud.

My questions:

Is there some deeper rooted meaning to her enjoyment in watching me use my own hand so much?

I was reading some posts here on Reddit about some women’s enjoyment in watching their husbands have sex with other women. Knowing my wife, and her personality, I could see her enjoying that to prove to the other woman that my wife has something the other girl doesn’t.

Am I looking too far into this and sparking up some fantasy I may have with having a threesome with my wife, or is she into this kink and I need to ask her about it?

Looking for genuine guidance from those who have had a similar experience. Thank you!