Wife update

Couple in our 30’s here, first off, we have not done anything in the way of sharing, only fantasized. Dirty talk has ramped up in the bedroom, and it has made our sex life much better. Previously it was very vanilla missionary style type stuff. Now she tries new positions and will role play from time to time, which is huge for my formerly reserved wife.

She will now bring herself to orgasm with her vibrator almost every time we have sex. We will have intercourse just to warm her up for her vibrator, then she will finish, generally with me next to her playing with myself, and we finish at the same time. She knows I like when she sucks on my fingers while imagining it is another dick. This last time we had sex and she got warmed up, she went to town on her vibrator while she jerked me off and sucked on my fingers at the same time. We came at the same time while I whispered in her ear if she liked sucking dick like that, while she nodded and let out “mm-hms” with her mouth full. Her enthusiasm for sucking my fingers over the last year or so has gotten to be much more, originally just slow sucking and now really bobbing her head on my fingers as if it were another penis. Seeing my formerly shy wife in this area open up to being dirty in bed has been great.

About a year ago I swore off of porn, as she has never liked me watching it (she doesn’t do so herself). I wish she would watch it, with or without me, if nothing else to get ideas on exploring fantasies more and maybe in the process ramp up her sex drive a bit more. She’ll do stuff most of the time I initiate, but almost never initiates herself. When I quit porn, it was agreed I would not be orgasming anymore unless with her present. It had been different for sure now, but it was also agreed she would need to pick up the slack to fill the void to take care of my needs, and she has been good at that. Many more handjobs (she is really good at them, I much prefer her to do it than me), and has been much more open to blowjobs, whereas in the past she didn’t care to give BJ’s. She has gotten better at BJ’s, too. Originally just slow sucking, she now incorporates ball play, occasional eye contact, and much more head bobbing and saliva, with different positions.

She doesn’t go out often without me, but when she does running regular errands, it is not all uncommon for her to get approached by a male to tell her how beautiful she is. She modeled around the time we met, and she is a 5’7”, 110 lbs stunning brunette with gorgeous big brown eyes, nice smile, a great butt, nice hips, and some of the most perfect B cup tits and nice nipples. After sharing that I like it when guys check her out when I trail her while we’re out, she has been much more open sharing when guys approach her when we’re not together.

Our favorite role plays are when she acts out that she owes something and needs to repay. Our relationship has it’s ups and downs like most, but it is a pretty good, solid one overall. We are financially well off, own a good business with lots of flexibility, and own outright everything we have. Despite this, sometimes she will get it in her head that we need more money. Our income has gone down since we got out of our second business, but still have the primary one. For instance, recently we had a nice fence erected around our acreage, primarily for her horses. Because we downsized her business to just my business (even though I see the business as ours, not just mine) so we could have more time, she felt the need to repay me for the fence. I told her the fence was bought by us, not me. But she looked into making a “quick” buck anyways and researched surrogacy (she’s looked into this in the past), as she has had a couple of easy pregnancies and likes the caretaking sort of thing. I told her realistically it is completely not worth it, with all the risks, headache, morning sickness, and wrecking her body that it would bring, for not a lot of money, but ultimately it is up to her. I told her from a fantasy perspective it would be super hot knowing she is carrying another man’s baby, and the side benefits of being able to cum in her without her getting pregnant would be nice, but IRL was not a turn on. She ended up nixing the idea thankfully, but still felt the need to repay. We have not had anal sex, but she did offer this to help repay the fence recently. I have asked her in the past to do so, but it has always been a hard no. This time, she offered while we were in the shower and proceeded to bend over. I stopped her and told her if we were going to do it, we would need her to work up to it, as it would probably be quite painful with my girth, and I didn’t want it to be a terrible experience the first time. I have also told her in the past that I thought it would be hot for another man to take her anal virginity, as I didn’t get a first with her in any other area (well, except the first to give her an orgasm). I missed the first kiss, bj, intercourse, etc, it is hot and humiliating thinking other men have gotten this, but not me.

Since we have role-played about similar scenarios of her repaying, I said we could play it out (of-course not really with her needing to repay). So we will role play her paying me back for things she purchases through sexual favors. It’s a win win, she feels better and freer with her expenditures, and I get what I want through sexual favors. Lots more blowjobs and trying things she previously would not have the mind to. I have talked to her about being more dominant (she will with light BDSM play), but she is predisposed to be submissive, which I do find to be an incredible turn on, since I am wired to be dominant.

I have been pleasantly surprised by the changes she has made in these areas over the last year. She continues to open up and try new things, which has been great for our sex life.