Wife and I have been in the lifestyle for a few years (around 5-6 years). Wifey is the shy submissive type. We’re discreet about our lifestyle and try to remain as private as possible. Nothing against the lifestyle we are just private people and don’t want to deal with the unwarranted comments.

We often discuss past experiences and so on like some couples do. I shared with her how I have had threesomes with a friend of mine and another lady, and how that was fun. She was interested and asked about more details. I brought up the idea if she would ever want a friend of mine to join us. She hesitated and stated no. But later on she mentioned at how she feels that this said friend flirts with her at times and so on, she asked if I ever noticed and i truthfully answered that “I never noticed”. My friend is the flirty type and smooth with ladies but I always took his interactions with my wife as friendly banter. (He has no idea we are one lifestyle but obviously we have had threesome together with other women in our younger days). The first time he was my wingman in the threesome and I want him to please wifey as well. We want to share with him that we’re in the lifestyle but not exactly sure how we want to go about it or make it awkward for him/her.

(We’re solid in our marriage and aware it will change the dynamic of things so we aren’t looking to do this for the wrong reasons)