This really irritates me, and it's coming almost exclusively from the STEM students. Stop it.

What usually happens is something like this: a (likely freshman) engineering major is frustrated or upset by some particular aspect of their studies. Maybe they don't like the online system, or they feel like they were not prepared for some of the weed-out courses, or they are having troubles adapting to the independent college lifestyle. They vent about their issues to this sub and genuinely ask for advice from older students.

90% of the responses are helpful and kind. But there seems to be an almost persistent 10% of people who take time out of their lives to comment: 'Um, this is engineering – get used to it. If you're having trouble now then this major is not for you.'

Couple of points:

1. You literally don't know the person. All you know about them is what they happened to type up on some reddit post. You can't possibly be equipped with the enough knowledge to judge what someone's life pursuits should be.
2. There isn't one "type" of engineering major. Everyone is different, and we should celebrate that. People can come in with all kinds of personalities/strengths and as a society we benefit from this diversity of thought. Just because someone doesn't value a particular part of the field that you cherish doesn't mean that they won't be able to make it.
3. You're contributing to the elitist stereotype of engineering (/STEM) majors. This is my biggest gripe. You're seeding in a feeling of doubt to young, impressionable freshmen, and thus actively making the major less open and welcoming just because you want to feel better about yourself. It's insanely selfish. STEM fields are already insanely unwelcoming, and you're not doing anyone any good by contributing.

To be clear, I'm not saying that everyone on Earth should be an engineer. There are people who would very likely benefit from switching over to another field. My point is that you can't possibly judge that from a 2-4 paragraph reddit post. It's irresponsible for you to think that you can. I struggled with really basic shit back in undergrad – everyone does.