My husband (34) came out as bisexual 3 years ago and a year ago told me about cross dressing and how he had always felt like he wanted to be a girl… All of this was shocking for me, I wanted to be supportive and talk but he wanted another reaction from me as I told him I needed time to process, he felt like I was rejecting him and he told me to forget about it and never mention it again, I tried to talk to him a lot of times about that because wanting to be a girl it’s something different, and I want to understand his feelings, but he doesn’t want to do it now… our sex life has been pretty non existent, he says his libido changed but I know he feels sexual towards others, he sexts and talks to other it.. but nothing with me… recently he brought up the idea to open our marriage to explore, he want to have sex with men again, as he’s feeling more the need to be not only with men but to feel like a women… we’ve tried pegging and he liked it but always told it wasn’t the same… Now he’s super closed to that, he doesn’t share anything with me, he buys toys and clothes and takes pictures of himself but in secret.. recently I talk again with him, told him he needed to address a lot of topics, and that I was not happy about our sex life and I wasn’t sure opening was a good idea at this point, and that I wanted to be honest and communicate our feelings, but he told me he wasn’t sure if he will be able to talk to me about that, about how he’s feeling and his identity.. I know it can be scary, but we’re in a marriage… and I think it also affects me.. I didn’t push but also told him it would be great to go to therapy, he just say yes, but nothing has changed… I found out his secret Reddit account while looking to find information to help me understand the situation, (Reddit it’s only so big), and found out that he’s acting as a woman, commenting on sexual subreddits as if she has sexual experiences as a woman, very explicit, I know that he must been also talking to men as a woman.. so I think this is what he’s not wanting to tell me… that he really want to be a women? Or if it’s only a fetish? As he only addresses sexual comments… I’m just tired of trying to solve this without any help from him.. I feel neglected, lonely and sad all. The time, he has never reassured that he’s attracted to me, or that he wants to include me in his life… I feel like we are just sharing a roof and he’s having a completely other life on the side.. I also know might be scary and confusing for him, but he’s not looking for help!!! And I don’t know if he wants to.. he has cheated in the past and also makes me really insecure and now at the same time I am starting to not care what he does… Needed to vent and also advice.. so if you want to chat please do..