See this is literally something I would've 100% commented myself last year.

I was a sad lonely depressed unemployed loser piece of shit.

In my head.

In reality?

I was an idiot who wasn't taking advantage of the shit that was right in front of me.

Because I had demons in my head that I hadn't kicked out yet.

But now those motherfuckers are gone.

And it's not hard to get over them..

It's actually really easy.

You just... let them go.

You think "You know what.. fuck all this shit. I'm all depressed and pissed off because I have debt, I was beaten as a kid (or whatever your case..), I have a shitty job that I hate and people around me that piss me off...

But what the fuck has being down on myself and hating myself and listening to what all these other (totally depressed also btw) assholes are saying about me and letting it affect me ACTUALLY DONE FOR ME??

Nothing except brought it down even more.

And more.

And farther down.

Maybe you dip into booze.

Maybe you become an alcoholic.

Maybe you get 3 DUIs. And still don't quit drinking because what's the point? You hate yourself anyway. Just another reason to call yourself a piece of shit.

Moooore depression. OOm nom nom. Looove that depression and darkness and despair.

Hey, let's like.. take everyone you know and push them as far away as you can.

Like.. just make them alllll hate you as much as YOU hate you.

Then you'll reaaaaallly be depressed.

Where's rock bottom?

I HAD to have hit rock bottom by now..

Isn't death next..?

Let's see if we can move that up a little bit... Because fuck it..

I know my family will be sad, but they will be back at work Monday.. They may cry every once in a while and tell people about me..

But I doubt it. They'l probably just.... be back at work monday...

And if they are still sad, they shouldn't be because I was just a huge burden right?

So fuck it.. Let's just end this shit.

Oh shit.. I'm still here..

god dammit...

Couldn't even do that shit right.

Oh well, more booze.

Hello darrrrkkneeessss

You know what.... what the fuck am I doing....

...

Why the fuck am I doing this to myself??

Oh ...because I don't....deserve anything else.......... ....?

...says who...?

..well, you...

...Yeah, but who the fuck am I..?

Well, you're the person who controls YOU. Remember...?

I think he's actually gone crazy..

Yeah I know but what I'm saying is.. Why am I not like.. happy?

Well because you have bills and Bob at work is a dick, and he thinks you are gay and that kid in school made fun of you yesterday because you have purple socks and they should be white and that kid called you a fucking faggot cocksucker in front of the girl you like or that girl fucked your boyfriend on the merry-go-round in front of Steve.

Yeah OK.. Yeah.. So.. Yeah.. OK.. Yeah OK I remember now.. Life sucks.. Yeah. OK Cool. Thanks for that. Jesus.

OK But still..... ALLLLLL of that aside....

....Who cares..?

....Well..... I mean... YOU do..

Yeaaaaaaaahhhh motherfucker but *WHY**

Well.................. ...because those people like.. exist around you..

OK. So. That means that they get to dictate how I feel..?

Well no, you do that.

Yeahhhhh but then why am I not happy.

MOTHERFUCKER I DON'T KNOW GO OUT THERE AND BE HAPPY!!!

Yeahhhh but.... ...how?

Uhhhh well have you tried like smiling and just being nice to people?

I mean yeah I smile..

NOooooo dude.

I mean you walk through a door ALREADY smiling so those people know you're smiling because happy not because it's the thing to do in that particular social encounter you are having.

Well.. No I don't do that..

K... So why don't you do that?

Well...... Because people will think I'm weird..

There we go with the people again.. MOTHERFUCKER, WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE??

Well. I mean LOOK AT THEM THEY ARE PEOPLE!

Yeahhhhh but why the fuck do they matter to you?

They don't!

Well obviously the fuck they DO BECAUSE THEY ARE RUINING YOUR LIFE AND YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW THEM!!!

Yeahhh.. but... money..

Oh jesus, here we go with the money again.

Yes, everybody is broke.. Yes it totally sucks..

Some people... I honest to god do not know what to tell them because society as a WHOLE will not help these people and I haven't figured out how to be given money to really make a major change.

Anyway back to the point.

If you have the money to at least afford the smallest place you possibly need (for the moment.. trust me, with pure happiness comes more freedom.. I PROMISE YOU..)

Maybe figure out how to cut some expenses down..

Find a budget planner..

Quit smoking..

Quit drinking alcohol.

Quit spending frivilously.

You. don't. need. all. that. shit.

Once you actually feel pure euphoric happiness... You don't fucking really need much else...

I mean, you get what you need.

Money isn't hard to find if you are ACTUALLY looking for it..

But when you're depressed, you're not.. because what's the point? YOu just wanna die.

Yeah.. but why? What if there is no magical jesus?

Well then I'll be in the ground.

Yeah, but you're.. fucking here right now..

Maybe actually.. I dunno.. Try to make heaven on earth for yourself.

Maybe make it to where being inside your head isn't a BAD PLACE TO BE..

Maybe make inside your head a fucking party 24/7 where everybody is happy.

Because in my head, everybody is happy. And there is no judgement. And there is no room for douchebaggery.

There is only respect.

You respect me, I respect you.

Pure respect.

And happiness.

And love.

And all that hippie shit that I always laughed at.

But when you actually figure out how to really.. fucking live it..

There really is no better feeling.

You are genuinely euphorically fucking high on life.

And if you're anything like me and are an anxiety ridden weirdo you may also turn that anxiety into pure energy.

Anxiety plus marijuana makes me a bunny on crystal meth.

But I'm fucking FOCUSED.. And I'm DRIVEN..

Because I'm HAPPY..

And I actually meet and get to know fucking every person I come in contact with.

And I meet so many new and awesome people online too.

Because I can go to a depression subreddit and just talk to people..

Am I helping? I really don't know..

Am I TRYING??

Absolutely....

But seriously.

I'm telling you .

All it takes is a smile.

Try this.

Walk into a convenience store tomorrow morning.

Or a coffee place.

Whatever you do first thing in the morning.

Walk into that place with a smile on your face.

Not a creepy ass smile..

Just a "It's gonna be a good day.. I just know it.."

Smile..

Walk up to the counter WITH THAT SMILE..

Look that person in the eye and say "Hi. How are you doing today??"

And actually ask them GENUINELY..

Unless they are in a really bad mood, or they are just a mean person,

I promise you, you will get an actual genuine response other than "Good you."

And you'll be like "Wow. That person just let me in to their life a bit and they don't even know me.

And they will remember me later on just by that one interaction.

They'll be like "Oh yeah, I had this customer earlier who actually asked how I was and actually cared. They didn't treat me like a corporate god damned robot.. It was crazy.."

Or if you see a homeless person..

Give them a soda and say "This is all I have, I'm sorry.."

Then ask their name.

Acknowledge that they are still a human being.

They will probably fucking cry if they are actually homeless.

I mean that as in there are some scammers, but they are kinda rare..

If they are truly homeless.. Just the fact that you even treated them like human means the world to them.. Because that's all they had and they lost that when society deemed them "unnacceptable."

And nobody even questions why they are there.

They don't look at that homeless guy and go "Man.. That guy used to make 100k a year.. Then his job was shipped overseas by a greedy ass piece of shit; and in the 30 years that he had the job it kinda became a lower income job..

along with like every job in existence..

so now instead of 100k he could only make $14 an hour; but he was 49 when he was laid off. He had some retirement

, but then he got in a car accident and it left his left arm paralyzed

No one will hire him.

His wife left him.

His dog died.

Now he's homeless because he can't find a job that pays enough to pay his alimony, and rent for a place..

His disability is all fucked up because bureaucracy and reasons..

Nope. You see that homeless guy and you go .

"What a fuck up. Fuck socialism. I'm not going to work to pay for that loser."

And the funny thing is, that's the same thing that homeless guy used to say when he made twice what you make.

TL;DR: You can be happy.

Step 1. Don't be a dick.

Step 2. Smile.

Credit to u/P2000Camero Will link his comment after I post

Linky: https://www.reddit.com/r/coolguides/comments/dp9q2y/selfcare_isnt_selfish/f5v0prz?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share