Hey there. I'm the mother of one 11 year old boy, whom I co-parent with my ex. My relationship with him is low conflict and friendly/civil. We have 50/50 custody and always have.

For a multitude of reasons, (but mainly economic- we live in an extremely high COL area) it has become apparent that we need to relocate. Luckily my ex and I agree on what city would be best, and when approximately we would like to be moved by. The trick is the logistics.

The whole situation just feels like it's going to be incredibly messy and stressful. Finding jobs, a new apartment, relocating on an already strained budget, it's overwhelming. My ex already has employment at a friend's business waiting for him, but for me and my spouse, we're starting from scratch.

My ex is moving in August, and he wants to take my son with him. I know this is reasonable and the best thing for him, but I can't shake my fears that it will be too long before I see him again- that we may not be able to find work, or a home, and I will only see my son on summer holidays. The longest I can see myself being okay with being apart from him is 2-3 months. Longer that that... the very idea is upsetting to me before it even happens.

Has anyone else coordinated relocation like this before? How did it work out? Are there any tips you can give me that would make it easier? I'm really looking for any advice here. Thanks in advance.