Not sure if this is the right place to post this but here goes....

My ex and I decided a few weeks ago it would be best to live separately. We separated at the end of Feb but were trying to make it work under the same roof for our daughters sake. We were and are on good terms but it was too much trying to process and move on while together.

I moved out (female half) and my ex is in the house. We have kept things positive for our kid and call them house #1 and #2 and try to keep it positive about having sleepovers, etc.

For some reason our daughter (3.5); does not want to go to my ex's house even if all 3 of us are together. I provide affirmation that I (mom) won't leave her and we'll be doing xyz as a family.

She has started throwing tantrums when we talk about going over there. My question is, how much do we push the issue to go to my ex's house to do stuff together as a family and how much do we let it go? My sense is that she is feeling she has little control in the situation and I'm trying to validate her by respecting her wishes not to go there. He has been coming here to do have dinner and hang out when we do things as a family.

Anyone have any experience or insight? We are close to just forcing the issue but don't want to traumatize her or make her feel like the situation is beyond her control and cause more problems down the line.