The longest time I said yes to pretty much everything and everyone. I almost never said no do people mainly because I wanted to make them happy and it really hurt me inside whenever I disappointed someone or they were unhappy because of something I did or said. The one person in my life I have the most trouble saying no to and being firm with is my oldest brother. For 20 years of my life I have allowed him to manipulate me and I just went with all of his suggestions because I didn't want to upset him and he can be very heavy-handed with the suggestions to the point of where it's not a suggestion it's a command. I really want to have the strength to tell him no and the confidence to stand by it even if he gets frustrated and mad at me or even threatens me. I want to be able to stand on my own without allowing everyone's opinions that can be toxic to me and my personal growth to control my life and my decisions.