Confidence (truly) comes from within, although “fake it ‘til you make it” has its virtues as well.

Some personal background: One of my parents is Asian (Indian), and I’d say the stereotypes in regard to academic performance and direction are true. That is, only perfection is tolerated and any deviation from the tried-and-true professional paths (Doctor, Lawyer, Engineer, Banker) is unacceptable. I did alright growing up—was always on the Honor Roll, took the AP classes, graduated from Berkeley, etc.—but was always told by that parent my performance wasn’t good enough and was constantly asked what more I could have done.

I am NOT here to feel sorry for myself. On the contrary, I know I can’t continue blame my upbringing for my problems. But I feel like there is a black hole of insecurity within me, and no matter how high I fly or how many achievements I collect, the plaguing feeling of “still not good enough” remains in my core.

How can I get rid of it? How do I get my mind right and set it free?? What are some techniques to build that strong, deep, unfaltering confidence?