I have some things going for me. I’m 6’1, have a decent income, and treat others the way I want to be treated.

But I feel like I don’t have that “X factor” when talking to the opposite sex. Talking to women that I don’t know makes me really nervous. I don’t think I’ll ever approach a woman at a bar for as long as I live. Because I fear I’ll be looked at as “creepy” when in reality I’m just on the socially awkward side. I have autism, but it is not obvious.

I’m a good listener. But at the end of the day, I just don’t know how to sell myself to others. I understand to “not think so seriously” and to have “good, light-hearted fun.” But that’s just not who I am around new people. I’m a socially anxious mess.

I’ll talk to my therapist tomorrow. But she has no ideas other than putting me on medication.