Hi,

First time posting here so if this post is incorrect, to general or needs to be posted somewhere else, please let me know.

I (35M) have had confidence issues for most of my life. Especially around women. I often feel that women can't be attracted to me. In fact, its hard for my mind to even comprehend that a woman could be interested in me. Like it just seems wrong, like a math problem that doesn't add up. Now I have dated in the past. I even dated a woman that I thought was completely out of my league for a little while. The confidence issues got in the way and we just grew apart.

When it comes to normal everyday things I have smaller issues. Like I have had some projects to do around the house but often feel that I can't do them. Not sure if its a lack of motivation or a belief that I can't do it.

Honestly, I feel that if I felt more confident around women, that might help everything else. I don't know. That could just be loneliness. I'm just tired of feeling that no woman could be interested because I know that's a lie. I've dated before, I'm not a virgin. I've talked to a few women on reddit that are very beautiful and they've complimented me. So I am attractive in someway.

Do I need to focus on being more positive? Has someone else felt similar and was able to change it? Any tricks or eureka thoughts that have helped you?