Lately, I’ve been finding myself [M35] thinking about something I never expected. My wife [F33], who is this beautiful blonde with a couple of tattoos and a body that still makes my heart race after all these years, keeps appearing in my mind… but with other men. The thought of her with someone else has started to consume me, and I can’t understand why.

It started off as just a passing thought, but now it’s a full-blown fantasy that I can’t shake. I imagine her with another man, his hands on her, her face flushed with pleasure… and I feel an unexpected rush. Just last night, as we were making love, I found myself imagining that I was watching her from a distance, seeing her experience something new, something raw.

I don’t know if this means there’s something wrong with me. I love her deeply, and this desire feels… contradictory. But at the same time, I can’t help but wonder what it would be like to see her in that way, to feel that mix of jealousy and arousal. I’ve never talked to her about this, and I’m not sure if I ever will. But the idea won’t leave me. Does anyone else have fantasies like this? Am I alone in feeling this way?