Being a stay at home mom was my dream when I found out that I was pregnant. I imagined living the traditional role of a wife and a mother - keeping the house clean, running the errands, making sure everyone in the house was good. And for a while it worked out well.

Then our family grew, my husband was working more and very quickly I saw the downside to being a stay at home mom. Your relationship and you are at the bottom of the list in terms of priorities. My needs always come last. And then I turned to friends and realized a lot of them didn't feel the same way. Which made me wonder if it was just my relationship that had gone bad. And so I stopped talking about it with them, embarrassed that they didn't feel the same way about their own relationship.

And then I turned to people who were in my situation, through reddit, and realized there was a community of people out there of people who were in a marriage or relationship where essentially they were co-parents under one roof. I never imagined in my life that I would cheat on my husband but genuine conversation can turn into flirty messages quickly and before I knew it I had arranged to spend a night in a hotel with a married man.

My life has never been the same since.