Like the title says, I just don't know how to have friends. I am 35m, married and lonely. This may not make much sense because I spend all of my time with my wife. Here is the thing though, I have realized that all of my friends are actually my wife's friends that I hang out with sometimes. I have tried making my own friends but it never really works out. I think this might be because I'm an insatiable flirt. Which leads them to either drop me because they want more than I'm willing to give them our because I make them uncomfortable. But I don't know how to be friends any other way. It also probably doesn't help that I'm a nerdy introvert. It's hard for me to make small talk so I just steer the conversation towards my special interests so I can talk at then rather than to them. Or I go the other direction and just listen, but then I just end up as the dumping ground for their emotional baggage.

Tldr: I'm an flirty introvert who is bad at talking