I am going to whine for a second. I was in a vanilla marriage for 11 years. When I got divorced I spent 5 years exploring my sexuality and what I liked and didn’t like in bed. I swore to myself I’d never go back to vanilla. After many years of exploring, I met a guy and I thought we had great chemistry. For 1 year I had the most amazing sex with him, everything was perfectly in sync between us sexually. Turns out, the romance was one sided so I ended things. It’s been 4 months and I’m seeing this really great guy and he’s extremely sweet, treats me well and I truly adore spending time with him. We have had sex and while it’s good, it’s very vanilla. I didn’t have the kink conversation with him right up front and I regret it because I really like him in every other way but that and I am an extremely sexual person and enjoy sex very much so it’s been important to me to be satisfied in a relationship. I wanted to approach things different because I’m sick of being heart broken so I told my vagina she cannot lead the way anymore. I like him and want to see where things go but everything inside me is stirring and craving him on his knees tied up with my foot on his shoulders while he tells me he’s Mommy’s naughty boy.