The first time was when I moved back home after college. A girl I went to high school with was now the manager of a restaurant and bar in our small hometown. I would go there on Fridays after work for a couple of beers. We would talk and catch up. One Friday I didn't have much to do, so I stayed longer. She was dating someone that was verbally abusive and she told me she was breaking up with him. The next week, after drinking together, we hooked up. She lived in the apartment above the restaurant and was very enthusiastic and loud. She told me later that people in the restaurant could here us. We hooked up two more times, then she revealed to me that she didn't actually break up, they just weren't talking.

The second time, I was on match.com. There was a girl that I found really attractive that said she wanted to go slow and find someone to go to lunch and happy hour. We agreed to meet for drinks after I got off work. We immediately hit it off. We liked the same bar. We would meet for lunch, went to the movies, but we weren't physically intimate. We just had fun. Then one day she invited me to go swimming at the pool at her apartment complex. She had an amazing body, and we had a good time. After, we went to her apartment. She said she was going to rinse off in the shower and put on clothes but invited me to stay. She waked out of the shower completely naked, like it was some kind of test to see what I would do. We fucked that night, and continued to have sex for a few more weeks. One afternoon, after having sex she became really quiet. She then sat up, and said, "I'm sorry, I didn't know this would get this far. I'm not good at meeting people, and reqlly just wanted some friends. I've actually been dating someone for over a year. He's in the army and is stationed in another city. I didn't think our relationship would reach this point." I was heartbroken. I really liked her.

The third time I hooked up with someone 8 years older on tinder. We fucked on the first date and every time we met up we fucked. She introduced me to things I'd never experienced. This went on for about three months, then she sent me a text saying she was engaged to someone who she had been seeing for three years but they hit a rough patch in their relationship and I was basically an outlet. I saw recently that she is single again.

Has anyone else experienced this? Or has anyone been on the other side?