So I have someone I know and care about that I’ve known for many years but been super close with for about 13 years. Backstory is he has a history of being a serial online dating app user which has resulted in a million failed talking stages. Well he did have a relationship with a guy a couple years ago where it was a long distance thing and then he ended it 8 months in. This is the longest thing he has had. Well, he is in professional school as am I and his academic performance suffered greatly while he was in that relationship. When it ended he went back to serial talking phases that went no where. Well a few weeks ago he met a guy online and talked for about a week and then started going to this man’s house and spends the night. (Crazy af I know but he does stuff like this). Well in the first relationship he behaved like me and the other person we lived with didn’t exist. He would come in and stay on the phone 24/7 locked in his room. He would literally cook and then leave his mess to run upstairs and watch tv with this long distance guy and talk on the phone all night. That shit bothered me because I’m supposed to be the closest person to him and he calls me a certain relative because he claims this, yet he paid me dust for 8 months. Well with this new guys he’s doing the same thing and he’s foregoing the studying he needs to be doing because this professional school is rigorous to stay on the phone or gone at this guys house. He also is acting like I don’t exist again. This time I’m not putting up with the shit so I’ve started ignoring him back the few times he’s tried to say anything to me. I have also not spoken to him at school and sit in my car until I have to go in for my class and he goes in for his. He used to talk but started staying in his car on the phone so now the one time he came to ask me for help on something I ignored him and didn’t roll down my window. (I’m a year ahead of him because the year he was with the other dude he failed a course and had to repeat the entire year.) I will not allow myself to feel the hurt I did last time son ignoring him and blocked his number even though we live together. He is already not paying full attention to school as he should and I worry he’s going down the wrong road again and it scared me for him because I care about him. I decided I can’t say anything because he doesn’t care what I say when it comes to this stuff and gets defensive. I just hope that this shit fails and he maybe pulls his head out of his ass. He doesn’t have boundaries like being firm in the whole stating he can’t be spending this time or that time because he has school… he’s too intrigued by the first person who shows interest and tells him what he wants to hear. I just hope he gets his shit together but I honestly hope this “ relationship” ends asap. Please tell me this is okay