So, I hung out one-on-one with a girl for the first time since we met (we’re part-time coworkers in different departments, go ahead & judge — it’s nothing I haven’t already told myself). We’re both gay & there have been vibes but nothing has been said.

Well, tonight, we went to her favorite bar & I bought all her food & drinks & supplemented her with arcade cash, and as the night progressed, she got more… touchy. Hands on my arm, leaning into me, putting her arm around me. At one point she was caressing my bare arm with her nails & looking at me for a solid minute & I was so caught off guard & turned on that I didn’t know what to do or where to look, and I’m pretty sure alllll of that showed on my face.

At another point, after not trying for more than like 2 seconds, she asked me to unbutton her pants for her because she was struggling.

But for all the awkwardly intimate moments, nothing happened. Was I supposed to kiss her?? Do you think she feels rejected or put off because I didn’t??

I would have loved to kiss her & it’s all I can think about, but I’m just not an assertive person & I also wasn’t entirely sure I was reading the room correctly. I feel like such an idiot right now.