So I recently came across this sex/relationship therapist who went kind of viral on tiktok for talking about sexual fluidity in straight men. I've listened to some of his professional opinions and thought he made some interesting points like:

1. romantic love can happen between people, regardless of their sexual orientations
2. sexual fluidity is different from bi/pansexuality. In other words if you are gay but fall in love with one person of the opposite sex just because of a super special connection, it doesn't necessarily mean you need to change your whole identity.
3. your sexual orientation is defined by your CONSISTENT sexual/romantic desires. Having one thought that doesn't align with your identity doesn't mean you need to change your whole identity.
4. Erotic orientation is different from sexual orientation. Your sexual fantasies dont always align with your sexual orientation. Some people might live out these fantasies with someone of the sex they are not attracted to just because they are attracted to the sexual act and not the person.

He talks a lot about sexual fluidity in men specifically because of the stronger societal stigma towards men experimenting with their sexuality. As a gay man he talks more in general about sexuality from a male perspective. Still, I think his opinions say a lot about human sexuality in general.

Thoughts?