So my dad called me the other night to ask something and then asked if I have a girlfriend or been on any dates and when I said no he said jokingly, “you better not have a boyfriend”. I said okay dismissively.

My sister later told me he ranted about how he asked if I had a boyfriend and I could “barely answer him”.

Then yesterday, we where driving to pick stuff up and he said he had a girl who is coming to America next year for school from his home country and she like similar things that I like like nature and animals and that I should see if I like her, he goes on saying how he can connect us and we decided form their and he can’t decide for us.

I reminded him how I will be moving away starting this summer for my job after I graduate this spring. Also I’m 22 and this girl is 18 (and I think she just became), I’ll be 23 soon so this is a no go for me. Also, I am predominantly attracted to and interested in relationships with men. He doesn’t know this but it weird he is starting to push this. I feel like he should have always suspected because he used to always repremand me growing up for acting to girly, and it was some of the dominant underlying themes growing up that always comes out when someone is mad at me.

Not sure how to navigate this, there are a lot of changes happening in the next couple months and I would rather not have to come out until I have my own place at financially independent but he won’t stop probing. My friend said to say I am talking to a girl but I wonder if he would want to see her and I would have to like find a pic.

He will not be accepting btw, like at all he comes from the one of the most homophobic countries in the world and was always made fun of because he was from a minority ethnic group that is deemed “soft” in the country by other men growing up. So he def has some issues but in the mean time how do I shut this down without him probbing and me being outed. I’m already sort of walking on eg shells as after I gained muscle and leaned out people are wondering how I still have not been on dates.

Side note: some background, my parents are separated for 12 years and divorced for 4. So they are not together and I only talk to him to have a relationship with him, but his current girlfriend is pushing him to act like a decent person so now he is trying to be a dad somewhat. (Also, he he serial cheater and has another family in another country).