The following is a pitch for the dynamic that I'm after. As with all relationships, it will only work with mutual respect and respect of boundaries, understanding, honesty, compassion, and a willingness to listen and share. Please always keep this in mind throughout our rapport, as shall I.

I love gentle domination, control, and obedience, and even more so, I love those that find their own joy playing my counterpart. I'm happily married to a wife that I love, but submission is decidedly not her cup of tea, but it's an itch that she encourages me to get scratched elsewhere. In other words, I'm ethically non-monogamous, but I really only have an interest in finding and maintaining one other partner.

I'm moderately demisexual. I need a connection and a mental appreciation of someone before I'm comfortable getting down and dirty. I'm interested in meeting someone who is interested in something long-term, and at least as interpersonal as it is sexy. It might be a FWB dynamic, or romantic; it all depends how the chemistry plays out. Just understand that I want to meaningfully know you both Biblically and as a person.

I'm deeply fond of caregiving: spoiling, fawning, uplifting, enabling hedonistic indulgence, and so on. That said, I must regrettably decline those with attachment issues or otherwise really struggling with mental health related issues, as I don't think I'm able to provide the level of time and attention that those often require and deserve. I'm in a good place myself right now, and I want to share that with someone likewise.

Kink wise, other than the domination, I'm into anal sex (genuine buttsluts, you are a rare and special sort!), bondage, overstimulation (particular via toys), spanking, giving praise, cum play, and getting inside a partner's head. As an example, one thing I always ask is to be informed about when you masturbate, and the fantasies or porn involved. I love understanding what makes someone hot, bothered, needy, and happy.

I am white, 5'11, lightly beardy and (I'm told) other pleasant features, slender but I've clearly seen the inside of a gym. I’m a very successful professional, working 9-5. My hobbies and passions tend towards the nerdy, political, and scientific, and I get along best with those who share some of that.

If this sounds like your sort of thing, drop me a reddit PM. Tell me about yourself, what you appreciate about the things that I have proposed, and what you want and need. Consider this your first instruction.