Hello Everyone. I'm an international student who just got into the USA. I joined my dream university this January and it has been a hell of a ride.

I'm from an Asian country called Bangladesh. A person interacting with another person is generally so common back in my country. I guess you know, Asia is indeed known for its friendliness and stuff. So you kinda get what I was used to. I was used to talking to all the students back in my high school and stuff. Even if I didn't know him/her. I've had like so many people whom I could talk to back there. Before coming here, I've met several American Freshmen on Instagram and they all seemed so chilly (still is). After seeing all these, my hopes were like so up and I thought it wouldn't be a problem to make friends.

But it's been a disaster. I've tried everything to make friends back in my college but there has been no luck. I do seat with some specific person in college but they seem to be interested in talking only INSIDE THE CLASSROOM. It always ends with "see you on Friday/Wednesday but never 'let's hang out together". What hurts more is that I have to initiate everything. I have initiate the conversation, carry it, find topics, give them interesting facts so that they find the conversation unique, etc. I'm getting tired of doing anything. Nowadays I'm feeling like let's just STFU and just stop trying. What scares me most is that day by day I'm getting sucked up into nothingness. I know it's my fault. But I'm not feeling like going out or anything. I wasn't like this before I came here. I'm feeling like the surrounding energy is showing its effect. Though I was warned by my uncle who lives in Maryland before entering the USA that people don't like someone joining "their business" here. But I didn't take it seriously back then.

I know I don't have the right to comment on a culture's way of work, but I've seen countless posts here which also showcase the problem of "why making friends is so hard in this city" from Americans themselves. The posts gave me the courage to write this out and I'm in no way being judgemental because I believe I don't have the right. I'm just asking a simple question "why do you think it's so hard making friends? In this country? If you agree it is hard making friends here, what can I do to right now to solve this problem?