My (23M) ex (23F)introduced me to kink. We started with light BDSM, but eventually worked up to cnc and knife play. The only problem was I didn't want to hurt her. At the time, I couldn't let go and really give her what she needed, I held back when spanking and using a cane, I could only ever hold the backside of a knife against her

Since then I've gained experience and I'm not as worried about things as I was before. I've had partners since, which I've been able to use an appropriate amount of force when spanking or caning, up to where they wanted.

She still occasionally posts to one of her NSFW accounts she had while we were together and keeps posting stuff about being in cnc situations or about her misogyny fetish, wanting to be degraded and used.

We occasionally catch up and have a normal conversation Edit to add: we split amicably, for reasons I won't get into here. There is no bad blood between us and we still get on fairly well.

I know it's just a matter of time before I try to turn our conversation sexual again, but there's that thought in the back of my mind that she posts on that account just for me, almost teasingly.

Would love to chat to anyone who has been in this situation before, or just any suggestions on how to approach the situation :)