I'm a 3 years experience civil engineer in land development that is underpaid and making $80k in the Boston market. My company is large, works hybrid, has affordable insurance, terrible vacation time, and has work in a niche field that happens to be my dream job. The problem is I am underpaid for the market, am not given the opportunities to work on my dream jobs despite me communicating extreme interest. The company has an old boys club that makes getting promoted and stock ownership difficult.

I have been offered a job at a company that works in person full time, will pay me $100k, path to stock ownership, path to promotions (or so they say), twice as much vacation but I need to be in person full time, work in an extremely outdated office, and pay for expensive insurance, plus lose the opportunity of possibly being able to work on my dream project.

The dilemma is at what point does getting paid a reasonable amountoutweigh the non-guaranteed possibility of working on a dream project and the now basic freedoms of hybrid work?

Am I currently getting ripped off? Would my company even bother trying to match a 25% raise or is that too much? Could I get this offer again somewhere else? Just looking for gus reactions from anyone not directly involved in the situation.