My mom is super religious, and her views on transgender are hard. She is accepting a very small degree, but not completely. I'm an adult (in my 30s).

We've had a few conversations that brush on thr topic of trans people and every time I just seem to get more and more distraught about coming put to her.

But, I want her to know. I don't want to keep hiding this anymore. For now, I enjoy certain things like my hair being short and not shaving my body hair. And just those few things she constantly has comments about. I want to come out to her to make her realize this me trying to be as comfortable in this body as I can without fully transitioning, but the fact is I'll probably end up transitioning sometime in the future.

I don't want to hurt my mom. I don't want to lose my mom. I don't want her to think badly of me. I'm well aware she may not be accepting at first, and she may nit be supportive. I know she's going to grieve and I'm completely okay with all of these things. She's allowed to her feelings. She should, I've had time to have all of them to coming to realize I'm transgender.

But how can I come out to my mom and have her hear me out, without blowing up or stopping me? How can I lessen the blow. I've tried dropping hints and I'm under the impression she's either really just not taking them or she's purposely ignoring them. Again, I love my mom, and unfortunately this isn't about her. This is about me, needing to be comfortable in my body. I want her to know that I'm still me. I'm not doing this to go against her religion, to hurt her, or because as she thinks it's socially cool to do. This is by far the hardest thing I've ever had to come to terms with and now tell people about.

Thanks for your help and understanding.