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Dating someone still living with Thier non christian ex after they broke up. Confused Feelings
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Hello everyone.

So I met someone via a Christian dating app and had a date with them over the weekend. International girl with no friends/family here. She came here to study and had been in my country for 3 years.

Date went great. Had lunch and walk around the city together. Saw her again on Sunday, went to church together and we walked her dog around the park. She put her arms around mine and held hands the 2nd time we saw each other.

I find out that she is still living with her ex boyfriend (the broke up 3 months ago) and they really don't get along well and fight. Shes not paying rent and living there for free. Her ex boyfriend is not a Christian (I'm questioning her morals/values already on this discovery). I don't feel comfortable asking her for details about Thier intimacy or anything of the sort. But I probably will eventually

We spoke very brefly about our values and she mentioned the wanted to find and be in a relationship with someone with similar values/beliefs

Come the following night she wanted to talk abruptly and was crying on the phone to me about how stressed she is and she's worried about her ex and how they keep fighting. She just wanted someone to talk to as she has no one else that she knows. I listened and was empathetic towards her situation and just listened to what she wanted to talk about.

She is actively looking for a place to rent and move out of her ex's home.

I do find her attractive and I am enjoying the time we have had together. It's just that her ex is bieng mentioned alot. I guess it can't be helped if she's still living with him... But Im having mixed feelings now. And the nice guy inside me is going to start coming out. (I tend to be way to nice in these scenarios in the past

I'm seeing her again and cooking dinner for her at my place later on in the week. I will not compromise her staying in my home and have suggested that if it's very bad where she's living she can get an Airbnb temporarily until she finds somewhere to rent

What would you do in this situation?

Thanks

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