My boringly predictable biological father gave a 3 hour long insult filled lecture/grilling at the end of a family holiday that I went on to see more of my brother and his kid.

He explained his rigid views on the world which included the idea that I have a personality disorder for living an unconventional life, and that he's never contemplated getting assessed for neurodivergent aspects to his character because 'no one who lives an averagely functioning working life with relationships under capitalism could have any psychological problems.'

He told me "we made the wrong choice with [the name] Theo" because he said he should have chosen something more popular to encourage me to fit in. Told my brother to pick something middle class for their newborn on the way, then said upper class if he planned to send their kids to private school.

He said that I started failing from 14, and that he wished he spent more time 'solving the problem'.

I gently disagreed with him on some politics subjects and he said "you think everyone is beneath you."

He basically tried to be a domineering asshole all night, to win me over to his way of viewing the world or kamikaze the connection trying, 'well I can't go soft or it won't sink in' and 'I just want to save you'.

He made cutting comments like 'you're the life of the party aren't you?' When I talked about not wanting to work or study abroad because it would mean being away from brother and his kid, he said that 'you don't go see them much anyway'.

He told me his paranoia that I had been the cause of my brother calling him Rob, instead of Dad, said "did you create a 'hate dad club'?"

I could have walked away, but just stoically sat there to see his mask slip and get a refresher on why our childhood was so fucked up.

I sarcastically told him as I was leaving the airport "cya, let me know when you have 3 hours free to be told how shit your life is. I'll get you into alternative lifestyles."