Hello and welcome to /r/chir4r! Now that r/chicagor4r has been banned, let’s ensure this is the best place in the Windy City to connect with other likeminded, local folks!

Whether you’re looking for activity partners, groups, dating, hanging out, soulmates, or casual fun in the Chicagoland area, you’ve come to the right place.

There ARE rules, however, and everybody is expected to follow them.

Rule 1 This subreddit is 18 . If you are under eighteen do not post, comment, or PM OPs. This rule is required of us by the admins for liability reasons. Lying about your age if you’re under 18 will result in a permanent ban.

Rule 2 No phone numbers or email addresses may be shared in public. No surveys, forms, or other information-harvesting activities. This rule previously also excluded usernames for any service of any kind, but the admins have lightened up on this definition recently so the rule has been updated to reflect this. We still recommend against sharing this information in public, as it will be much more difficult to connect scammers/catfish/etc. to their Reddit accounts when communicating via non-Reddit platforms.

Rule 3 Exchanges for money, goods, or services, are strictly prohibited. This includes, and is not limited to, any of the "sugar" lifestyle ads, offers for free trips, lessons, tutoring, webpage design, gaming, cam performances, etc. If you are doing something in exchange for something else, it will most likely fall in this rule. Please contact the modstaff for clarification or questions. Also note that if your activity feed contains items of this nature, you'll need to use a different account to post on r/chir4r to avoid any potential conflicts of interest or confusion about the nature of your posting.

Rule 4 Sexism, racism, homophobia/transphobia, ad hominem posts, or rudeness will not be tolerated. Keep it civil and respectful.

Rule 5 No SPAM is allowed. SPAM includes advertising of any kind other than a personal ad. You are allowed to post to the subreddit once, and only once, per 24-hour period. This includes deleted and resubmitted posts for any reason other than automod removal upon initial posting (not edits). This is to prevent users from trying to game the algorithm Reddit uses to stick on the front page of the subreddit. First frequency offense will earn a minimum 24-hour ban, additional offenses will earn longer bans.

Rule 6 If you know your post contains NSFW or suggestive language (you know when it does), then please tag it as such. This rule is a courtesy rule, because although the subreddit is 18 , we are not exclusively an explicit subreddit. You have the option once your post is submitted to tag as NSFW, if you know it contains NSFW material (pictures or text) and can't tag, PM the modstaff and we can tag for you. Anything sexually suggestive falls in this category.

Rule 7 If you have an issue on the subreddit, use the report button or contact the moderators. This includes not leaving comments on posts where you see a problem. Preventing defamation is the biggest driver for this rule.

Rule 8 If you do not agree with a post, ignore it and move on. r/chir4r isn't a discussion forum and expressing disagreement doesn't add value to anything on this subreddit. Everyone is entitled to their preferences and you don't have to share your own in public if it's not your post.

Rule 9 No posting on behalf of another without sending proof of consent to the mods first. Because this situation is rather unusual, the mods will often require person verification of the person being posted on behalf of.

Rule 10 Accounts must have sufficient karma and be sufficiently old to participate. (The specific age and karma requirements change from time to time in response to scammer campaigns. Do NOT modmail to ask what the current requirements are.) Post titles must include the author's true, exact age at the time of posting. Post titles must include at least the author’s geographic location (city neighborhood or burb) Adding "/Anywhere" or "/Online" after your location is acceptable to indicate to readers that you’re seeking outside your area. Content must be primarily English. These requirements work together to reduce SPAM and catfishing.

The titles of submissions must be properly formatted or they will be deleted. The format for post titles is:

<age> [<r4r>] <your location> - <title>

"r4r" denotes your gender and preference.

Examples:

21 [M4F] Arkansas - Looking for a friend

26 [F4R] Toronto/Anywhere - I want a gamer buddy and somebody to chat with

30/29 [FM4FM] Sydney, Australia - Married couple looking for roleplay with another married couple.

Tag Meaning M Male F Female T Transgender R Redditor / All

Rule 11 Low effort posts including, but are not limited to, posts with no body will be removed at moderator discretion. Posts must contain 100 words, 2 conversation starters, and distinguishing info about the author (links and meta about the post itself don't count). This rule was created in response to, and has been tuned specifically based on, community feedback from readers who want to get the feel for who an OP is as a person before contacting them. Attempts to "fill out" a post with non-distinguishing info will result in temporary bans.

Rule 12 No advertising groups or communities. Some of them aren't always appropriate, and sometimes they're used to farm usernames. Posts whose purpose is to "build" a group or community also fall under this rule. Check out our official R4R Discord Server if you're interested in a group conversation.

Moderators reserve the right to remove posts and/or ban users upon their discretion

If you have any questions, feel free to reach out via modmail.