I have a friend who has a fiancee and 6 years old child. She was the only person I went to when i was being abused by my ex. So I know she can be a good friend.

I just feel lately, I do a lot of the heavy lifting in our friendship. She is a SAHM and most of the time her son has doctor's visits because he does have some disabilities. For the longest time, she didn't have a car. But finally, she bought one off her family. She kept telling me how she can come over. We can get coffee. I was pretty excited to not have to be at her house with her noisey kid and her moody fiancee.

Its been three months and we still had not gone out for coffee. This morning, she messaged me she wanted to do a Galentine's lunch and i said ok. We haven't seen each other in a while because holidays and sickness. I asked her if she wanted to get coffee since I had the day off. She told me she couldn't because now the fiancee uses her car now that his truck broke. She said he uses it for work. So then i said I can bring coffee to her. I was willing to tolerate the kid because I really needed to vent about work drama. She said that works. I told her around 10.

I got done with an errand sooner than expected. So I messaged her and nothing. Called her and no answer. She messages me that she was just waking up and her fiancee didn't go to work after all. Said he needed to do yard work...

I told her I really wanted to do girl talk. She said same. But clearly the only option was I had to go over there. She was not going to leave the kid with her fiancee. She didn't offer. I said we can pick up some other time. I was annoyed at this point.

I am really annoyed she didn't consider updating me. I was willing to chat around her son. I am always having to consider her son or her husband. And her husband is totally miserable with his job and just oozes pessimism. I don't think he means to, but it makes me uncomfortable talking about my career around him . i gave her sooo many excuses of why I had to go over to her house. It's so lame she can't drop the kid for more than two hours. She doesn't trust the father to be responsible longer than that. She says he doesn't pay enough attention.

Ugh. Vent over.