I have a sibling that takes advantage of our family by neglecting her children. Now obviously if you ask her she thinks she's mother of the year and does everything she can and has a real narcissistic view of herself. But ultimately she's neglectful of her children and only does the bare minimum until things get so bad that our family has to step in. I mostly stay out of it. I have a lot to say but Im not in position to say anything in terms of family dynamics. But it pisses me off that there are people who willfully have children, these kids were planned by her to keep a man that don't want her. And now she's with another dude who has as many problems if not more and probably has plans to do the same with him.

She knows we won't turn her into CPS because she's does just enough to not qualify for having her kids taken and she knows that just off the principal that we would feel fucked up for taking her kids away knowing we don't want to take them and that will end in them being turned over to system. One is an infant, who has a higher likelihood of getting adopted, but other is 7 and is in her attention seeking phase, so will have a lower chance of getting adopted. This won't stop my sibling from having yet another child to keep a man and this new guy already has other kids by other women with a convicted record of abuse.

I don't understand how people can be this fucked up. She was raised in the suburbs. She's nothing but good examples. She's went to decent public schools. But she some how got it in her head that being a hoodrat is a good career goal and takes advantage of her friends, family and friends through her children to float her. I don't know what this situation is called or even what to do about it, but it's gone on far enough, but no one knows what to do about it that doesn't have fucked up outcomes for everyone involved.

Either we have to take care of her kids and the potentially more she would have because she will know she will be let off the hook because we will take care of them, or we let kids become victims of the foster/adoption system. Either way we lose and she'll let off the hook.