Me and my friend Sally used to be close, but we haven't been in touch a lot the past year. Lately, we meet up every now and then. Today I saw her, and she told me she is 8 weeks pregnant. She didn’t think she could get pregnant without IVF because she has a condition with cysts on her ovaries and her doc told her that a pregnancy might get difficult. So she never used protection.

The father is her FWB, a former friend of mine (former for good reasons). This guy is no good. He thinks the earth might be flat, is an antivaxxer, and believes in crazy conspiracies. He doesn’t have a job and spends all day ‘researching’ his crazy beliefs. He doesn’t seem to have any empathy and he abused his ex-girlfriend (he hit her) although this is 8 years ago. I never knew this until recently. He doesn’t want this child.

Sally is not convinced to get an abortion. She knows it’s a bad idea and she feels like shit because she is pregnant from this guy and he is not being supportive at all.

Somehow she always expects people to be something that they clearly aren’t. She knows this guy well, and still expects him to be this wonderful, supportive guy. This kind of ignorance made me step back from our friendship a bit about a year ago, because she sometimes cost me a lot of energy, and i didn have this energy because I was going through some heavy shit myself.

Her reasons to not terminate her pregnancy are: It is never a perfect moment to have a kid; When she gets more kids later in life, she will keep wondering how it could have been when they would have had a brother or sister; Her life is not that interesting so it would be a way of giving meaning on her life; she is afraid that this might be her only chance because of her medical condition. Only the last reason is somewhat reasonable to me, the rest is just dumb and selfish. Her parents, sister and all of her friends think it’s a bad idea to have a child now.

I am looking for advice about what to do. I am meeting up with her this Sunday for lunch. I want to prepare myself. What should I say, and whatnot? I want her to feel supported but I also want to slap some sense in her. She is clearly not thinking logically and I am afraid she will wait until it’s too late. The longer she waits, the more difficult it gets. What can i do? I am also searching for a professional to guide her. I am no psychologist but there has to be a way of helping her see how bad this idea is.

TL/DR: my friend is 8 weeks pregnant and she struggles with the decision to keep it or not. The father of the child is no good, and she herself is not ready for a child. She knows what is best, but is not making any decision. I need some advice about how to help her make the right choice

Update: she planned an appointment at the abortion clinic for Wednesday but she still has doubts so might not go on with it. I can't find proper help like a therapist to guide her. I don't understand