I completely think, intellectually, that it's their right to get pregnant and give birth. I think there should be affirming, gender-inclusive care for them. I think everyone should understand that trans man and trans masc people get pregnant and give birth. I say "congratulations" when it happens.

However.

It is so viscerally disturbing to me, as a trans man who sees my transness as fundamentally linked to my extreme fear and disgust related to pregnancy and birth. I know that many cis women feel disgusted/afraid of that as well and I completely get that (and feel validated by it.) But for me, I think i always felt like being trans was naturally part of it for me. I feel better about this now that I'm on testosterone, but ultimately as long as there's still a uterus in me, it could potentially happen, and I feel like that would be worse than death. Probably, if I had a hysto (currently, health doesn't permit) I'd be able to be more OK with it because I wouldn't see other people's pregnancies as some kind of threat.

Ultimately, the bottom line reason i find it threatening is that I always felt I was expected to give birth and have children, and being trans gave me the best "out" ever. (That's not why I came out or why I am trans or anything, it just happens to be this way.) Now, nobody expects me to have kids, ever. Doctors don't. Family doesn't, after I explained that I don't want to because I'm trans. Hell, not too long ago, people felt that trans people shouldn't have kids at all because we were weird monsters or would influence them. So it's almost an opposite thing. People are SO okay with me not having kids. A doctor has just randomly offered me a hysto if I wanted one, while I was still in my 20s.

So when trans guys have kids... I'm thinking, you're fucking all this up for me. The more of you do this, the more people will again want to coerce me into having children. I won't have an excuse to get them off my back. I will be triggered and dysphoric every time it happens. Is that logical? Not necessarily. But feelings aren't always logical.